My friend Joe and I were joking on the way home today about that phrase – “It is what it is.” Basically, that needs to become my life’s motto – I need to learn to let go of some things (namely what I cannot control) and accept that things “are what they are.”
All day long, I have felt more stressed than I have in ages. It just seems like when your work life is making you crazy, if your personal life is reasonably calm, it doesn’t seem as bad. And likewise. But when both are out of sync, the result is feeling like your head is going to explode.
That’s exactly how I have felt all day today, like my head is going to explode.
I am notoriously a poor relaxer, when it comes to achieving balance. I relax well only when I have nothing else to think about (i.e. on vacation). When I attempt to relax otherwise, I pretty much fail miserably.
I want to quiet my head, to tell myself that most of what is causing me to stress so much is transient – that it will all pass. I try to tell myself that in the grand scheme of things, most of what is bothering me doesn’t matter. Finally, I try to tell myself, “it is what it is” – in other words, it sucks that things aren’t going right, but I have no power to change most of it.
I need to learn to compartmentalize – to reserve my stress for the things that matter (a.k.a the things worth stressing over) and for the things that I can control. I need to stop focusing on trying to figure out people that I don’t understand. I need to trust my instincts more than I generally do.
I just hate feeling “off”…it’s one of the worst feelings in the world.